MEANIE OLD MEANIES
I guess maybe it is a Naija thing to be insensitive but when you are the subject of the insensitivity, it really hurts! So, this is me doing my countdown to the "fabulous and flabless" me and hating the fact that I am really depriving myself of too many of the things that bring me joy. I get up everyday knowing that I will have definite temptations, desires for certain meals and snacks, and knowing that I will not be able to have any of them. I drive by the usual eateries and stores and they beckon as usual and I look away, sometimes more easily than other times. Anyway, you get the picture.
So you can imagine how it feels when people make comments like... There was this time I was at a party and as usual the gist moved to dieting, exercise, weight management etc. I made a show of wanting us to change the discussion to more pleasant things. "Hey, Uloma no follow for dis gist. Obviously she has given up! I don't even blame her sef" That hurt. I haven't given up!
Then there was the other time I finished a training session... very recently. I took a glance at the feedback forms at end and saw a comment that made my heart cringe. "I thoroughly enjoyed the training. The facilitators were really very interesting especially the FAT woman. She really understood our industry". That hurt... It also haunted me for days.
People just gotta be nicer to fat people...
6 comments:
Don't hold on to hurt. It steals your energy and keeps you from accomplishing what you want to achieve. Smile!
Real problem is that the confidence is waning again. Can't believe that I can pull off this weight-loss thing. I see the kilos dropping off on the scale and I am told the inches are also reducing but everytime I think of the whole hog... the amount of weight I really need to lose, forgive me guys, but it totally overwhelms me!
I can't. Can I?
While it’s great to see the big picture, I like the Old Chinese proverb “It is better to take many small steps in the right direction than to make a great leap forward only to stumble backward”. This blog and your efforts is an inspiration to many – to me especially. We all have concerns we will like to overcome. I have had mine over the past number of years, and the attrition is pretty evident. I am on the way to bucking that trend – only dedication, celebrating small victories and confidence will take me there. Don’t wane – the challenges of being a mother, wife, business owner and good Christian – and then this can be overpowering, however Anyi kwu gi na zu!
Chikere
Chikere, I owe you a huge celebration dinner when ever I find myself in the UK soon! You so so get it!! Thanks a lot!
Ije, forgive them for they know not what they do. No be me find trouble? If I was "Lekpa" or "Slim fit Maggi" and a perfect size 14 I for get this insult? LOL!!!
Thanks....
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